गत शनिबार बेलुकी नक्सालको टाउन प्लाजामा छापा मारेर प्रहरीले दुई किशोरीसहित सञ्जीव लामा र सोमबहादुर तामाङलाई पक्रयो। हाइ प्रोफाइललाई केटी सप्लाइ गर्नेहरु रहेछन् उनीहरु। क्यासिनो र स्टार होटलहरुमा गएर प्लस टु र स्कूले विद्यार्थीहरु आफूसँग रहेको भन्दै एक रातको ५० हजार रुपैयाँ लिएर केटी मिलाउने काम गर्दा रहेछन् उनीहरु। केटीहरुलाई भने उनीहरुले बढीमा १० हजार मात्रै दिने रहेछन्। सोमबार एउटा न्युज च्यानल एबीसीले यही विषयमा विशेष समाचार दिएको थियो। लाज लाग्यो मलाई त्यो समाचार देखेर।

के नेपालमा जिम्मेवार भनाउँदा मिडियाको काम यस्तै हो ? के टिभीलाई कुनै आचार संहिता लाग्दैन ? कार्यक्रममा पक्राउ परेकी ती १० कक्षा पढ्ने किशोरीहरुको निःशुल्क शोषण गरिएको थियो। टेलिभिजनको रेटिङ बढाउन र विज्ञापन पाउन गरिएको त्यो शोषण ती दलालहरुले गरेको भन्दा रत्ती भर पनि कम लागेन मलाई। हाइ प्रोफाइल व्यक्तिहरुलाई केटी मिलाउने एउटा गिरोहका केही सदस्यलाई प्रहरीले पक्रयो। यतिसम्मको समाचार त ठीक छ, तर किन ती किशोरीसितको अन्तर्वार्ता टिभीले दिनुपरेको ? किन यो स्कूलमा पढ्छे भनेर देखाउनु परेको ? अझ अचम्म त टिभीले छोपे छोपे जस्तो गरेर ती केटीहरुको अनुहार टेलिभिजनमार्फत देशभर छर्लङै देखाइदियो। त्यो पनि एक पटक हैन, बारम्बार।

 त्यसो गर्न पाइन्छ ? के त्यति गर्दैमा अब यो समस्या समाधान हुन्छ ? फेरि कस्तो शब्द प्रयोग गरिएको छ रामराम ! हो, सिंगापुरमा लाहुरे रहेका बाबुकी छोरीलाई यस्तै काम गरेर खानु पर्ने अवस्था नभएको हुनसक्छ। तर त्यसका लागि उनी मात्र दोषी हुन् त? पक्कै पनि हैनन्। त्यसो भए उनलाई मात्र दोषी झैँ देखाएर र उनको अनुहार टिभीमा देखाएर समस्याको समाधान हुन्छ? मलाई शब्द मिलाएर लेख्‍न आउँदैन। र म अझै पनि मेरा मनका कुराहरु शब्दमार्फत् एक्सप्रेस गर्न सकिरहेको छैन। एबीसी टेलिभिजनको त्यो कार्यक्रमका केही अंश युट्युबमा समेत राखिएको रहेछ। तपाईँ आफै हेर्नुस् त्यसलाई र भन्नुस्।

What makes good sex good? And what makes great sex better than good sex? Is it the overall amount of pleasure? The overall amount of excitement? The emotional connection with the other person? The intensity of the orgasm? The profoundness of the experience?

There is in all likelihood no unique answer to these questions. However, in a recent study Nielsen and her colleagues found that sex may be less satisfying for people who experience very intense sexual arousal. The team examined several parameters of sexual experience in people with an extraordinary sensory condition, known as synesthesia. Synesthesia is an unusual binding of experiences or mental images. For example, music-color synesthetes hear musical notes as colored and lexical-gustatory synesthetes see or hear words as having particular tastes.

About two percent of the population experience colors and flavors or other sensory qualities during orgasm and sexual arousal. The experienced colors and flavors are seemingly unrelated to the sexual act. That is, they are not sensory qualities of bodily fluids, bright clothing or the bedroom background music but are experienced as a kind of extra vision or mental imagery triggered by touching, caressing, petting or climax.

Sexual synesthesia can lead to a sexual trance, an altered state of consciousness. The descriptions of it resemble reports from people who experience synesthesia while under the influence of hallucinogenic drugs, such as LSD and magic mushrooms. One form of altered consciousness during drug intoxication is an experience of rapidly changing colors, shapes and textures in response to music.
In their study of sexual experiences in synesthetes, Nielsen and her colleagues found that synesthetes experienced the most intense forms of sexual trance and therefore had very profound physical and psychological experiences during sex. But surprisingly perhaps, these extreme states of arousal did not make the synesthetes rate their experiences as more satisfying than ordinary folks. On average, synesthetes were significantly less satisfied after sex than people without the condition.

A sexual trance may be experienced as an extremely intense physical and psychological state of arousal, involving total absorption. An extreme state of arousal, however, does not necessarily make sex feel maximally satisfying. Donald Mosher, a researcher at the University of Connecticut, has proposed that two other factors are equally important for great sex. One is role enactment. Role enactment may be thought of as a kind of sexual identity that is acted upon during the sexual act. Role enactment is present when you act out your inner fantasies, for example, your inner dominatrix or your inner Medusa. The other factor is engagement with the sexual partner, including the sexual partner's responses to what you do and to your sexual arousal and the ability to have a shared experience. Maximum sexual satisfaction is an equilibrium of all three factors: sexual trance, role enactment and partner engagement.

The researchers suggest that the decreased satisfaction in synesthetes may be due to the fact that they are unable to fully share their sexual experiences with partners who have more earthly sexual experiences. This, in turn, may lead to a lack of engagement with the partner and a feeling of isolation. These findings emphasize the importance of partner involvement for everyone, regardless of the nature of their sensory experiences. A sexual trance may be a goal worth pursuing but maximum sexual satisfaction cannot be achieved without role enactment and partner engagement.

महिलाहरुको मनभित्र के भइरहेको छ ? यो विषय पुरुषका लागि एउटा ठुलो प्रश्नका रुपमा रहने गरेको छ। अझ यदि कुरा सेक्सको हो भने त यस्तो के कुरा छ जो महिलालाई यतातिर आकर्षित गर्दछ ?
एक शोधका अनुसार कतिपयको बुझाईमा महिलामा सेक्सप्रति इच्छा जागृत हुनुको सम्बन्ध उनीहरुको उमेरसंग छ।
तथ्य त यो हो कि मध्यम उमेर र बढी उमेरका महिलाहरुमा यौन गतिविधिहरु केवल उमेरबाट नियन्त्रित हुंदैन। उनीहरुका लागि साथीको स्वास्थ्य र उसको सम्भोगप्रतिको उत्सुकताले ठुलो अर्थ राख्दछ। यसैबाट उनीहरु प्रभावित हुने गर्दछन्।
२८ देखि ३५ वर्ष उमेर समूहका महिलाहरु सेक्स गर्नका लागि सक्रिय त रहन्छन् तर उनीहरु सजिलै कामुक व्यवहार प्रदर्शन गर्दैनन् । यसविपरीत कयौ पटक साथीको उदासिनता, उसको स्वास्थ्य, साथीभित्रको सेक्सप्रतिको कम रुझान आदि कुराले पनि महिलाभित्रको सेक्स इच्छा समाप्त पार्न समाप्त पार्दछ।
हालै गरिएको एक अध्ययनअनुसार महिलाहरु पुरुषको शारीरिक बनावटमा बढी ध्यान दिने गर्दछन् । शक्तिशाली व्यक्तिप्रति शारीरिक रुपले महिलाहरु बढी आकर्षित हुने गर्दछन् । अध्ययनअनुसार महिलाहरु सामान्य पुरुषको तुलनामा हृष्टपृष्ट पुरुषतर्फ बढी आकर्षित हुन्छन् । यसका साथै पुरुषको आक्रामक व्यवहारले पनि बढीजसो महिलालाई खिच्ने गर्दछन्। एजेन्सी

 लण्डन(एजेन्सीहरु), यौन सन्तुष्टि बारे गरिएको सर्भेमा छिमेकी मुलुक भारत तेस्रो स्थानमा छ । भारतीयहरुले शारीरीक सम्बन्धलाई सुःखी र सफल दाम्पत्य जीवनको एक महत्वपूर्ण अंग मानेका छन् ।

५० प्रतिशतभन्दा बढी भारतीयले यो सम्बन्धबाट सन्तुष्ट रहेको स्वीकारेका छन् । पश्चिमा सञ्चारमाध्यमहरुले लगातारको यौन हिंसापछि भारत बारे ‘सबभन्दा ठूलो लोकतान्त्रिक मुलुकमा बलात्कार’ शीर्षकमा थुप्रै खबर छापेको बेला यो निः सन्देह सकारात्मक सन्देस हो ।

डुरेक्स कन्डोम निर्माण गर्ने एक बेलायती कम्पनिद्धारा गरिएको सर्भेमा भारतका ६१ प्रतिशत जनता स्वस्थ यौन अभ्यासबाट सन्तुष्ट छन् । सर्भेमा पहिलो स्थान नाइजेरिया (६७ प्रतिशत) र दोस्रो स्थानमा उत्तर अमेरिकी मुलुक मेक्सिको(६३प्रतिशत) छ । यसपछि पोल्याण्ड(५४प्रतिशत), ग्रीस(५१ प्रतिशत), होल्याण्ड(५० प्रतिशत), दक्षिण अफ्रिका (५०प्रतिशत) र स्पेन ( ४९ प्रतिशत ) छ । उक्त कम्पनिले यो सर्भेमा संख्यात्मकभन्दा गुणात्मक र स्तरिय सम्बन्धलाई आधार बनाएको हो ।

रोचक पक्ष के छ भने आफ्नो जीवनकालमा १० देखि १२ जनासम्म यौन साथी बनाउने अमेरिका र क्यानाडाका मात्र ४८ प्रतिशत जनताले यौनमा सन्तुष्ट रहेको बताएका छन् । भारतीय जोडीमा यौनक्रिडा र चरम सुखको दौरानमा शारीरीक, मानसिक एवं भावनात्मक समर्पण धेरै बढी देखिएको सर्भेमा भनिएको छ ।

डुरेक्सले तनाव मुक्त सम्बन्ध, यौन स्वीकार्यता, सेक्स सम्बन्धी भ्रम र यसको निरन्तरतासँग जोडिएको प्रश्न गरेको थियो । सर्भेमा भारतीयहरुको यौन जीवन पश्चिमाभन्दा अब्बल देखियो । बाहिरबाट नीकै सरल र सामान्य देखिने भारतीयहरुले देखावटी र नक्कली जीवनयापनभन्दा अझैं टाढा रहेको हुनाले प्राकृतिक यौनान्द लिन सकेको सर्भेमा भनिएको छ ।

Source: eKantipur

बेलायती पुरुषहरुमा आफ्नो पार्टनरसँगको सेक्समा अरुची बढ्दै गएको अध्ययनले देखाएको छ । एक वेबसाइटले गरेको अध्ययन अनुसार हरेक तिन जनामा दुइ जना बेलायती पुरुषहरु आफ्नी पार्टनरसँगको सेक्स टार्नका लागि आफु निकै थाकेको बहाना बनाउने गरेका छन् ।
सर्भेक्षण अनुसार ४७ प्रतिशत पुरुषहरु आफु सेक्स गर्ने मूडमा नभएको भन्ने खश्रो जवाफ दिएर श्रीमतीलाई पिठ्यू फर्काइदिएर सुत्छन् भने हरेक पाँचमा एक जनाले टाउको दुखेको बहाना पार्दै श्रीमतीलाई छल्छन् अर्थात् श्रीमतीसँगको यौनक्रिडाबाट उम्किन्छन् ।

पुरुषहरुले श्रीमतीसँग सेक्न नगर्नका लागि अपनाउने अरु बहानाहरुमा आफु घरपालुवा जनावरको हेरचाह गर्दा निकै थाकेको देखि लिएर आफु टेलिभिजन हेर्ने काममा व्यस्त भएको सम्म हुने गरेका छन् ।

अध्ययन अनुसार कतिपयले आज मौसम खराब रहेको भन्ने बहाना बनाएर मौसमलाई दोष दिँदै श्रीमतीको आलिंगनबाट उम्किने जुक्ति अपनाउँछन् ।

अध्ययनले के कुरा पत्ता लगाएको छ भने बेलायती पुरुषले यसरी पार्टनरसँग संसर्गमा रुची नदेखाउनुको मुख्य कारण उनीहरुमा यौन उत्तेजनाको कमी र लिंग उत्तेजित नहुने समस्या प्रमुख हो । अध्ययनमा लिइएका झण्डै एक चौथाइ पुरुषहरुले आफुमा यौनिक समस्या रहेको स्विकार गरे भने ७ प्रतिशत लिंग उत्तेजित नहुने समस्याबाट पीडित रहेको पाइयो । यद्यपि केवल १६ प्रतिशत महिलाले मात्र आफ्नो श्रीमानमा यस्तो यौनिक समस्या रहेको स्विकार गरे ।

अध्ययनबाट के निष्कर्ष निस्कियो भने, ६० प्रतिशत पुरुषले आज म निकै थाकेको छु भनेर सेक्स टार्छन्, ४७ प्रतिशतले आज मलाई सेक्स गर्ने मूड छैन भनेर तर्किन्छन्, २० प्रतिशतले टाउको दुखेको बहाना पार्छन् । त्यस्तै ७ प्रतिशतले आफ्नो लिंग कहिल्यैपनि उत्तेजित नभएको पीडा पोखेका छन् भने केवल १६ प्रतिशत महिलाले मात्र आफ्नो लोग्नेको लिंग उत्तेजित नहुने समस्या रहेको पत्तो पाएका छन् ।

Emma Thompson has said that dancing with Prince Charles is "better than sex".

Thompson made the comment in a Time magazine feature on the 64-year-old heir to the British throne, News.com.au reported.

The article also revealed that the Prince of Wales staged a dress rehearsal to teach Prince William the intricacies of hosting an investiture, and it included a sword being sent especially from London.

Charles held the trial run for William during a family holiday at Birkhall in Scotland last month, ahead of William's first investiture ceremony last week at Buckingham Palace.

The heir to the throne taught his son how to dub a new knight with a blade and the training proved successful, as the ceremony apparently passed off without any problems.

The six things he's hoping you'll do the first time you have sex

William Masters and Virginia Johnson became famous for the groundbreaking sex research they conducted at Washington University in St. Louis in the 1950s and 1960s—so famous, in fact, that Showtime decided to turn their story into a new drama series, Masters of Sex. Masters and Johnson’s discoveries changed the way we think about sex and about women’s sexuality in particular. Their studies showed that women were capable of multiple orgasms, among other things. These were revolutionary ideas the time, but new research about women and sex has revealed some facts that would shock even Masters and Johnson. Here’s the latest on sex research from Dr. Eden Fromberg of SoHo OBGYN and Naomi Wolf’s most recent book, Vagina: A New Biography. 1. Cycles of light affect our fertility
Women used to menstruate during the new moon (when it’s dark at night) and ovulate during a full moon (when it’s light). Now, in a world full of artificial lighting and bright screens, women are not as in tune with the connection between their biology and nature. Some have tried “lunaception,” altering the lights in their bedrooms based on the moon lighting to change their ovulation.

2. Women can get pregnant five to eight days after having sex
Studies have shown that some sperm can live in the cervical mucus crypt before the egg is actually fertilized for anywhere from five to eight days after sex.

3. Wearing high heels can negatively affect a woman’s orgasm
Certain high-end shoe brands developed the arch in their high-heeled shoes to approximate the arch in a woman’s pelvis when she is having an orgasm. The heels create a contraction in the pelvic floor, which is problematic because the pelvic floor then cannot contract further during orgasm. “An orgasm is usually like going from zero to 60,” explains Fromberg. “If you’re already at 55 [from wearing heels], you’re not going to have a full experience.”

4. Orgasms can make women more creative
Studies have shown that orgasms can make women more confident, productive and creative. And it’s a feedback loop—women achieve fuller orgasms when they are being creative.

5. Birth control pills dampen the libido
Any hormonal contraception has that psychological side effect. Sometimes women even have trouble conceiving once they’re off the pill because while they may have been attracted to their partner on the pill, they’re not actually compatible with each other biochemically without the extra hormones.

6.  Sitting in chairs can arouse women
Pudendal nerves, underneath the buttox and the sitting bones, feed arousal tissues (in the vagina, clitoris, anus, etc.). Sitting in a certain kind of chair pressing on the pudendal nerves in a certain way can lead to sexual arousal.

7. …But it can also dampen their orgasms
On the other hand, sitting in chairs for most of the day shortens the pelvic floor and psoas muscles—muscles which are essential to a full-body orgasm. When these muscles are tight from sitting too much, women find it harder to achieve a great orgasm.

8. Women have three erogenous zones
The clitoris, the G Spot, AND the opening of the cervix. Some argue nipples belong on that list too.

9. Nerve endings are distributed differently in every woman’s vagina
Like a snowflake, each woman is unique in that her nerve endings are distributed in her genitalia differently than anyone else. That means, every woman needs to employ slightly different methods to achieve orgasm.

10. The pulsations a woman feels during orgasm are actually her uterus trying to gather sperm
Round ligaments that end in the labia majora “rock the uterus back and forth during orgasm so that the cervix has the opportunity to potentially scoop semen up that may have pooled in the back of the vagina to enhance fertility,” says Fromberg.

11. Being well hydrated leads to better orgasms
Because the body is mostly fluid, being hydrated enhances people’s ability to achieve orgasm.

12. All woman can achieve orgasm
Almost no woman was born unable to achieve an orgasm. “Women have the innate machinery programmed to have orgasms,” Fromberg explains. “But not everybody learns how to use that machinery well.”

I just had sex every day for a year, and I didn't tell you about it.
But I did video tape it, so check it out -> here!
Just kidding.

I wasn't even sure I was going to go into it, but here we are. *pats the empty space on the couch*

It was the email that never made the emails, mostly because it was the kind of truth that stung a little too much.Well, shit.

The fact is, I am horrible at intimacy. I come from a family of non-huggers and I sometimes hate my body, so yeah, recipe for Temple Grandin hug machine. My husband is gorgeous and very, very sexy, but the issues we were having in the sack were all me. I could not shut my insecurity off, and sex quickly became a really anxiety-inducing experience that went one of two ways.

1. I avoided it, because it was hot and stressful hiding my body under two comforters and a snowsuit in the dark and instead ran a diversion play. I have cramps. I have too many deadlines. Gigi is too scared to sleep alone let's bring her in the bed with us. Yeah, I used a 4-year-old as the most adorable cock-block ever. You can't be in sex mode after reading three Fancy Nancy books, you just can't.

2. I tried to explain to him why I was self conscious, and then he asked why him telling me how pretty I was wasn't enough for me to get over it, and I felt like a horrible, horrible asshole.

So after a lot of crying and shrimp curry, I came up with the plan to have sex every day for a year, barring any medical problems or logistical issues, and he seemed to be pretty okay with it. I wish it could say it was a profound decision, but the truth is, I was getting worried he was losing interest because I acted uninterested out of insecurity, and he was getting nervous about me saying things like, how awesome do separate bedrooms sound!?

(Spoiler alert: I still vote separate bedrooms, but he's a snorer and sleep chewer who is vehemently against the color mint and my need for body pillows.)

We figured if we focused on intimacy, eventually it'd rekindle all the things we spent sevenish post-birth years back burner'ing out of sheer exhaustion and raging insecurity. This is the same way I got over my fear of eating oysters and driving in the snow. You just make yourself do it until you don't notice it feels like mucus or like you don't know how to control a motor vehicle. You make yourself do it until it becomes a place of comfort and safety. You make yourself do it until suddenly, you love it.

Now I can't speak for Andy, except to say he had a really good time, but for me, a year of sex became less about getting my sex on, and more about getting my brain to stop being an asshole when I took all my clothes off.

It started off pretty rough. I felt like I was always preparing for sex; Whore's Bath & Sink Shaving Badge #5: UNLOCKED. It got to the end of the day, and as I hunched over the sink washing my face, praying for cold sheets and sleep, I'd realize I still had the whole love-making thing to do, and it was like, awesome, another daily chore.

But then it stopped being a chore, and became the moment of the day where I was most at peace. Where I could have an actual conversation with my husband and know he was listening to me and not secretly watching television or elbow deep in Lego assembly.

I told a few friends, and they reacted pretty much the same way, oh I could never do that. And I totally get it, but I actually learned a lot about myself between the sheets.

It's not you, it's me. Stop being weird about it.

So I disliked my stomach. My thighs. How I looked laying flat on my back. A myriad of irrational things, really, and I'd have the same conversation with Andy about it, telling him I'm self conscious and I just don't feel sexy, and then he'd spend 10 minutes telling me how gorgeous I am, and then another 30 minutes pouting and being hurt that it wasn't enough to make me change my mind. So on top of feeling insecure, I felt like a jerk. That needed to stop. I needed to explain to him that him seeing me that way is great, but unless I saw it too, it didn't count. I mean, at least if he expected me to be an active participant and not just a hole laying on the mattress. It took a lot of talking to make him realize that me not feeling sexy was not an attack on him, and him being hurt about it only made me feel worse. I wanted to enjoy sex, too. And the key for me being able to enjoy it is feeling confident and gorgeous, and that was a me journey, not a him journey, though having a cheerleader on the sidelines was a plus.

We quickly learned, confident Brittany sex is way better.

Pretty panties make me happy.

It's no secret that I love fashion and playing dress up, but I found that when I was at home in mom/wife/muggle/couch mode, I was opting for ease. And that's fine. Seriously, I am not some bitch here telling you to wear heels to the grocery store or pants to school pick up when you aren't even getting out of the car and it's a total waste of clean pants. But one day I was getting dressed for an outside wedding shower in 90 degree heat, and decided to forgo shapewear for regular underwear, when I realized the only underwear I owned was either ratty maternity underwear or cheap 99 cent briefs I grabbed at the end of a Walmart aisle to get me through my period week. No wonder I didn't feel sexy, I had the undergarments of an incontinent nursing home patient.

So I went to Cacique and stocked up on 5 for $25 panties. Some were plain and some were lacy, and when I wore them they looked so pretty across my hips. I'd even find myself walking from my closet to the bathroom wearing them, a stark contract to the primal run I did covered in a towel with my spanx shoved into a ball of clothes in my hands when I thought Andy wasn't paying attention.

I went back to buy more underwear, and even some cute lingerie that I tried on in the store and sent photos of to Andy at work. Needless to say, he was excited, but it was more than that. The effort I put into wearing the cute panties, even if they were under a pair of jeans or sweat shorts, made me feel insanely gorgeous, and my brain needed that.

I am my own sex advocate.

I like being on my knees and I'm not an inside climaxer, I'm an outside climaxer. I do like oral sex, but I don't like having my nipples touched, because they are numb. I also hate having breath on my neck because I am extremely ticklish, and then I get goosebumps and my leg hair grows in too fast. Please stop doing that.

All that? I had to work on being okay saying all that out loud, and get over the idea that I was being a selfish, demanding nympho. I deserve good sex as much as he does, and instead of waiting around for him to figure it out, which is totally unfair to guys by the way, I had to find my voice and use it.

Coincidentally, it was a major turn on. Who knew?

Now what, nympho?

We're not hell-bent on doing it every day anymore, but we definitely make more of an effort, and it helped us be a lot more open with each other. I mean, if you have "ball shaving" as a monthly google calendar alert, it's safe to say you're comfortable talking about almost anything.

She has yet to officially comment about the baggie containing a mysterious white powder she dropped outside her home Wednesday.

And Cara Delevingne certainly didn't let an alleged drug scandal get in the way of her good time at the Met Ball in New York Monday.

The 20-year-old model was too busy kissing her punk lookalike for the night, Sienna Miller, and hobnobbing with the fashion elite to be bothered.
What drug scandal? Cara Delevingne, seen here locking lips with Sienna Miller, certainly didn't let an alleged drug scandal get in the way of her good time at the Met Ball in New York Monday

What drug scandal? Cara Delevingne, seen here locking lips with Sienna Miller, certainly didn't let an alleged drug scandal get in the way of her good time at the Met Ball in New York Monday

The five-foot-eight stunner later tweeted the lip-lock Instagram with the caption: 'Studded love! X'

Both blondes rocked similar hairstyles and vamped it up in studded Burberry designs, which made sense since Cara is the face of the brand's Body Tender fragrance.

Burberry's Chief Creative Officer Christopher Bailey hinted the British company would be sticking with Delevingne despite the white powder scandal as they posed next to famed fashion photographer Mario Testino.